If you are a victim of domestic or relationship violence, you can follow some guidelines to help protect yourself.

Be prepared — make a safety plan

Often in the calm stage, victims may choose to remain in the relationship, hopeful the abuse will change. It is important to have a safety plan in the event that the violence erupts again.

Call a shelter

Find out about legal options, shelters and other resources available to you before you have to use them. Know exactly where you could go and how to get their even if the battering should occur in the middle of the night.

Talk with someone at your workplace you trust

You can talk with someone at your workplace you trust, such as your supervisor, human resources manager, or employee assistance.

Notify security and your supervisor of your safety concerns

Provide security a picture of the abuser and a copy of protective orders. It is also a good idea to review the safety of your parking arrangements and ask for assistance.

Review the safety of your childcare or school arrangements

Give a picture of your abuser and a copy of protective orders (that includes no contact with your children) to the day care provider and school administration.

Prepare an emergency bag and keep it in a safe, confidential place

Be sure that it includes:

• An extra set of clothing
• Extra cash, checkbook, savings account statement, identification such as birth certificates, social security cards, immunization records, medical insurance cards
• Financial records such as rent receipts, title to car, etc.

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