Parent-Teen Relationships
As children learn new life rules and lessons during the teen
years, parents too, need to adapt their parenting techniques.
Although teens generally begin spending more time away from their
families, they still need active and aware parents. Parenting with
love and approval, and taking a positive approach even in moments
of frustration are effective ways to guide children during the teen
years. This article discusses strategies for positive parenting,
including promoting self-esteem, communicating, resolving conflict
and teaching responsibility.
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One of the most profound changes in parent-teen relationships is the amount of time parents and children spend together. Teens are home much less often than in earlier years and, when they are home, they are usually in their rooms. Not only do teens enjoy the privacy, it also provides them with an uninterrupted opportunity to listen to music, chat with friends, do homework, etc. Teens also go through periods in which they don't want to be seen with their parents as they try to assert their independence. This peaks around age 14 but it typically fades quickly. While these natural tendencies of teenagers make it more of a challenge for parents to interact with teens, it's important that you make time to do so. And, since your time together is limited, make that time pleasurable. |  |
The following tips may help you and your teen spend enjoyable
time together:
- Let your teen see your fun side.
While your child still needs a parent, not a pal, show your teen
that you are fun and interesting. Share your excitement about
hobbies you have in common, talk to them about aspects of your work
they may find interesting, and talk about activities that you find
fun. Let your children see you as a person, not just as a
parent.
- Develop common interests. A teen who
enjoys baseball may enjoy talking with a parent about their
favorite baseball team. An art-loving teen will appreciate a parent
who can discuss the Impressionists or the modern movement. Even if
you don't share common interests, go out of your way to learn about
their interests and try to find common ground.
- Allow your teen space. Don't take it personally if your teen isn't always in the mood to talk, or if he or she wants to be alone with his or her friends. Teens have the right to privacy (within safe limits), just as you do.
Source: "Positive Parenting Strategies For
The Teenage Years." Copyright LifeCare, Inc. All rights
reserved.
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