The Family Stress Test

Take this quiz to help you evaluate your family’s stress level. Score 0 if the statement is never true for your family, 1 if it’s rarely true, 2 if it’s sometimes true, and 3 if it’s always true.

1. ___We often talk about our feelings.

2. ___It seems like we argue a lot.

3. ___I know what’s important to my kids.

4. ___(For couples) Sometimes marriage is disappointing.

5. ___(For single parents) I’m comfortable being single.

6. ___The kids get upset that we argue.

7. ___We have enough money for the important things.

8. ___We have conflicts about how much to spend and on what.

9. ___Work is important, but family is our top priority.

10. ___We don’t listen enough.

11. ___(For couples) Our relationship is strong.

12. ___(For single parents) My kids are upset when I date.

13. ___(For couples) We both feel good about our roles as parents.

14. ___It seems as if someone’s always mad at someone else.

15. ___(For single parents) The kids like my choice of dates.

16. ___Too much work is getting to me.

17. ___Tension in our house is rare.

18. ___(For single parents) Being single has been very hard for me.

19. ___The kids are doing well in school.

20. ___There’s never enough time.

21. ___Everyone in the family has a job, and does it without being nagged.

22. ___(For couples) We argue about who should do what with the kids.

23. ___We eat together every day.

24. ___It’s impossible to get the kids to do anything around here.

25.___Vacations together turn out well.

26. ___I’ve been called in to school to discuss my child’s behavior.

Total Odd Score:________ Total Even Score:________

To score: Total your scores for odd-numbered questions and even-numbered questions separately. Your goal is to have a high odd score and a low even score. Both are positive signs of your family’s stress skills.

For scores of 33 and above (odd) or 17 and less (even): Congratulations! Your family has good skills and attitudes which help you handle life’s stresses. This makes your home life rich and satisfying.

25–32 (odd) or 18–24 (even): You have a strong start. Try practicing your good skills and positive attitudes more, to create even more harmony at home.

18–24 (odd) or 25–32 (even):You’re probably under much stress. Look carefully at these questions and think about ways to improve your score. Remember: it’s not a sign of weakness to ask for help.

17 and less (odd) or 33 and above (even):Taking action now is very important for your family’s health and happiness. Reach out to friends, family or professional help for a great boost when times are tough.

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